10 Facts to Introduce you to me
✨My name is Caoilfhionn, which is pronounced like Qweelin. When combined with my surname, my name translates to the blond and fair daughter of the hound of the sea from Irish, which by the way I speak. Although I’m pretty rusty at this stage
✨I’m a life coach specialising in Desire, Sex and Relationships. I want to live in a world where sexuality, the earth, our bodies, loving community and honest expression are all treated with reverence. Working as a coach is my way to contribute towards that world.
✨I’m engaged to Matt, we’ve been together 2+years. We had a whirlwind romance where we connected online during the pandemic, when I was in Ireland and he was in London. Within a week of connecting online, we agreed to move in together, which then happened within a month, and then a month later we got engaged! I feel so happy to have found him and we feel very much in love and lucky to have each other.
✨I have a podcast called ‘In Bed with Caoi’, where I interview guests on topics related to s/ex, intimacy, desire, and embodiment. And sometimes I do it alone, sharing stories from my life or things I’ve picked up over time. You can find it on all major podcasting platforms
✨I was part of an art project where my vulva was photographed in a book called, “Womanhood: The Bare Reality”
✨I’m mad for the road, which I think is an Irish expression, which basically means that I love travel and adventure and trying new things. I’ve done some out there things in my life, which I plan to write about it a book some day. Sorry if that feels like a tease, you’ll have to wait for the book!
✨I’m very much on my own healing journey, I’ve experienced anxiety and depression at various points in my life, stemming from CPTSD. I’m working with a therapist and a somatic experiencing (SE) practitioner at the moment, supporting me. I cannot recommend SE enough, as it’s worked in ways that other modalities just haven’t been able to.
✨I used to be an alcoholic, an almost every day wine drinker and weekend binger until my 26th birthday, when I hit a bottom and decided to give it up. I didn’t drink for 5 years, until I realised that the part of me that wanted to get annihilated drunk wasn’t there anymore, (I had done lots of inner work by this point) and I started drinking again. That was 3+ years ago and I’ve been a very moderate drinker since then.
✨I have experienced Interstitial Cystitis, pelvic pain and vulvic pain. I used to live with the chronic pain and discomfort from these for years, which thankfully is mostly gone now except for the rare flair ups that happen when I’m very stressed. It’s left me passionate that pain in the vulva, shouldn’t be taboo to talk about, and that we need to have more conversations about vulvas in general.
✨I believe in God. This feels like the edgiest thing to share here, because it brings up fear that I’ll be seen as weird or that I’ll try and convert people to my way of thinking, which is the last thing I want. To me it’s a very personal experience, that guides me in how I live my life.
Let me know in the comments below if you relate to any of these, or if there’s something about you that you would like to share
