✨My name is Caoilfhionn, which is pronounced like Qweelin. When combined with my surname, my name translates to the blond and fair daughter of the hound of the sea from Irish, which by the way I speak. Although I’m pretty rusty at this stage

✨I’m a life coach specialising in Desire, S/ex and Relationships. I want to live in a world where s/exuality, the earth, our bodies, loving community and honest expression are all treated with reverence. Working as a coach is my way to contribute towards that world.

✨I’m engaged to Matt, we’ve been together 2+years. We had a whirlwind romance where we connected online during the pandemic, when I was in Ireland and he was in London. Within a week of connecting online, we agreed to move in together, which then happened within a month, and then a month later we got engaged! I feel so happy to have found him and we feel very much in love and lucky to have each other

Growing up, I didn’t get on well with the other kids around me, so I spent a lot of my time in the school yard, walking by myself, daydreaming.

I don’t remember what I used to dream of then but I do know that the habit stuck with me.

All through my adulthood, as a big walker, I spent hours a day in fantasy as I was getting from a to b.

Dreaming of a life, where I was rich and influential as a creative with my own business. Confident and at ease in all situations. Having hot s/ex, travelling the world and in a loving relationship.

These fantasies were a wonderful escape, and a source of huge inspiration but the drawback was that the contrast between my fantasy life and my real life was stark.

Being the Good Girl won’t get you what you want

What it will do though, is burn you out

I followed all the rules.

I got a great academic education.

A graduate job.

The death of hustle culture and the emergence of flow

Many of us to a greater or lesser extent have bought into hustle culture.

The belief that we are what we do.

That our worth is reliant on productivity.

That the use of our life-force to make things happen that aren’t in congruence with our values is worthwhile

Because if we stick to these values we’ll get love, safety and success

The joy of healing from freeze, overwhelm and depression using the practice of somatic experiencing.