Behind the scenes, my obsession these past few years has been feeling more.

I had noticed during the pandemic, that most of the left side of my body had become numb and there were other parts that were inaccessible when I tried to put my attention on them.

The parts that I could feel, where wrought with tension.

Each breath was empty of its full promise and left a gaping craving for more air.

As my throat and chest, choked me, from the inside.

✨My name is Caoilfhionn, which is pronounced like Qweelin. When combined with my surname, my name translates to the blond and fair daughter of the hound of the sea from Irish, which by the way I speak. Although I’m pretty rusty at this stage

✨I’m a life coach specialising in Desire, S/ex and Relationships. I want to live in a world where s/exuality, the earth, our bodies, loving community and honest expression are all treated with reverence. Working as a coach is my way to contribute towards that world.

✨I’m engaged to Matt, we’ve been together 2+years. We had a whirlwind romance where we connected online during the pandemic, when I was in Ireland and he was in London. Within a week of connecting online, we agreed to move in together, which then happened within a month, and then a month later we got engaged! I feel so happy to have found him and we feel very much in love and lucky to have each other

Why thinking positive thoughts doesn’t work to actually shift your life

I see lots of memes online about how we need to change our thoughts from negative to positive, to have our desired life.

They usually talk about how our thoughts impact our actions, which impacts our lives and how the same repetitive, negative thoughts can often keep us stuck.

What these memes are missing though is that our thoughts reflect our state.

So if our thoughts are fearful or angry or sad, its because we have the energy of these emotions in our bodies, and that to shift them, we need to feel them.

The joy of healing from freeze, overwhelm and depression using the practice of somatic experiencing.

How I transformed a negative pelvis bodywork experience into deeper power, stronger boundaries, trauma release and into creating an empowering journey for other women and their sexuality.