One of the ways to expand the pleasure you feel is to look at all of the places where you block it

I was on the phone to a good friend yesterday, a coach and I was sharing about something that I was unhappy about. I was having a bit of a whinge.

I listed out all of the things that were annoying me, feeling aggrieved and sorry for myself.

Now she’s a smart woman and listened patiently.

When I was done speaking, she reminded me of all the positive things that had happened too, wonderful happenings that I had brushed over and dismissed in my story.

Pleasure is experienced in the present moment

This may sound obvious, so why am I writing it?

What I’ve found that I do, and many of my clients do too, is that we put off feeling pleasure until some fantasy moment in the future.

Oh I’ll let myself feel pleasure when …

… I’ve lost weight

… I got this promotion

… My business is in this place

… My health is fully recovered

… My kids are at this stage

… My house is properly organised

… Everything on my to-do list is done

… I have the perfect partner