On Libido aka Sexual Desire

I’ve been on a trip with my libido.

It’s fluctuated wildly at different points in my life.

I’ve had periods of intense desire and longing for sex

And other periods when that’s been shut down.

Closed. Focussed on pain that I’m experiencing or some emotional turmoil.

When it’s been hot and on, the challenge has been on how to channel it.

Before I did any inner work, I used to get drunk and take men home. 

Barely feel much, because I had too much to drink.

And often in risky situations.

Then when I had some inner work under my belt, I had a schedule of lovers.

Practices and sex positive events lined up.

Initially wobbly at expressing desires and holding boundaries, then slowly better over time.

Pleasure expanding too.

Then when it’s been low, the focus has been on how to nurture it.

Tend to the flame of aliveness, when everything feels numb and dead.

Or sore.

Listen to the murmurings of my body, my senses and slowly feed them.

Holding back the desire to rush

And forgiving myself if I do.

We women are cyclical creatures. Our libido fluctuating in tune with our moons and our lives.

Each season of desire needs to be handled differently.

Loved and tended in its own way.

Not with rules, but according to your knowing and listening.

If you want to learn how to feed and tend to your Libido, I will be teaching and sharing about this in my new programme The Pleasure Upgrade, which starts in 2 weeks on the 9th of November.

If you want to know more, all of the details are here.

Or if you want to chat to me first, contact me X