Growing up, I didn’t get on well with the other kids around me, so I spent a lot of my time in the school yard, walking by myself, daydreaming.

I don’t remember what I used to dream of then but I do know that the habit stuck with me.

All through my adulthood, as a big walker, I spent hours a day in fantasy as I was getting from a to b.

Dreaming of a life, where I was rich and influential as a creative with my own business. Confident and at ease in all situations. Having hot sex, travelling the world and in a loving relationship.

These fantasies were a wonderful escape, and a source of huge inspiration but the drawback was that the contrast between my fantasy life and my real life was stark.

That was a source of frustration, to put it lightly.

I had a sense of my potential but I was plainly not living it.

I was working in a job, I liked but didn’t love anymore. I wasn’t practicing anything creative. I was single with a track record of unhappy relationships. I was also unwell with an auto-immune disorder.

Things reached a head, when after years of health issues and life frustration, I made the choice to heal my body and follow my dreams.

They say people change out of desperation or inspiration, for me it was very much the former.

At the start of my journey, I hit the bookshop and picked up classic self development books.

Books like “The Power of Now”, “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway”, “7 Habits of Highly Successful People”

I started to keep a journal and I took up meditation again.

I set myself weekly goals to nurture my dreams and I created a vision board.

As this process was unfolding, I moved away from the classic personal development path and found myself drawn to books on the feminine and sexuality.

These books lit a fire under me, so much so that I enrolled in a Life Coaching programme that specialised in Desire, Sexuality and Relationships.

My life changed utterly with that decision. I went from having a fairly conventional existence to being on a spiritual journey of erotic discovery.

I immersed myself in the world of conscious sexuality, met incredible people, and learned life changing sexuality practices.

I worked with world class coaches, teachers, healers and practitioners who supported me and taught me how to live a life that’s authentic to me and supportive for my body. 

I’m now an entrepreneur (+2yrs) coaching people, mostly women and some men. I support them to create the lives they desire, have more pleasurable s/ex and have more joy and intimacy in their relationships.

I’m creatively expressed, writing regularly and I have a podcast called “In Bed with Caoi”, it’s on all major platforms if you haven’t listened to it yet

I’m in a loving, passionate relationship with a man, who I laugh with everyday and go on adventures with

On the whole, my life is one of having not fantasising, and it feels great.

Moving from fantasising to having involved many steps but these are some of the main ones for you to consider if you’re currently in this spot

1. Getting Clear about what you really want - a great question to ask yourself is where do I want to be in ten years time?

2. Take an inventory of what the cost is with your current life - we often ascribe loss and cost to change but we can forget that staying where we are has a cost too

3. Listen to your intuition/your inner knowing - it’s there to guide you to what you actually want in the way that is best for you

4. Surround yourself with others doing what you want to do - it’s far easier to make big changes in your life if the peer group you spend time with are supportive and get it

5. Get support! It’s hard to create change by yourself, although it’s definitely possible, it’s just faster when you have the guidance of someone who’s experienced in doing it.

If you are feeling the desire to change your life, mix things up and go after your dreams, message me about working together 1to1 X