Why do women do this? I was thinking about my experience of faking and there were a few driving factors

1. The cultural sex scripts I had picked up from TV etc, taught me that sex meant quick penetration, a focus  on male ejaculation and that women, without much clitoral stimulation get off on that. I faked orgasms to fit into that script. 

2. I believed the narrative that women don’t derive as much pleasure from sex as men and it’s something to get over and done with ‘for them’

3. I felt greedy to need clitoral stimulation for more than 5 minutes, because that took longer than what a man needed to become aroused 

4. I found the sex I was having lasted too long and I used faking an orgasm to make my partner climax quicker so that we could stop

5. I assumed me asking for what I wanted, would hurt my partner’s feelings

6. The first few times I asked my partner (back when I was 19) to change what he was doing, he dismissed me and I internalised that I had done something bad

I’m guessing others have had similar experiences/motivations. 

I stopped faking after a disastrous relationship and promised myself never again (if you’re curious about that story you can read here). 

Over the years, I’ve learned how my beliefs around s/ex and relationships were wrong and I’ve also sought out practices and teachings that revolutionised my s/ex and expanded the pleasure I feel.

These kinds of experiences and others are what inspired me to work in this field. To help create a world where women don’t fake. Where sex is pleasurable for everyone and based on honest communication between partners.

It’s why I do what I do, and why I’ve created The Pleasure Upgrade where you learn these skills for yourself.

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